Question:
My team often goes out for after-work events, but I usually decline because I’m not comfortable mixing work and personal life. Now I’m worried they’re seeing me as anti-social. How can I address this without coming across as unfriendly?
Answer:
I totally get where you’re coming from—balancing boundaries and team bonding can feel tricky. The good news is, there’s a way to show you’re part of the team without sacrificing your personal boundaries.
Try this simple, friendly approach:
“Thanks so much for inviting me! I usually use evenings to recharge, but I’d love to join occasionally or maybe catch up over coffee or lunch instead.”
Suggesting alternative daytime gatherings, like lunch or coffee breaks, can also help you stay connected without compromising your comfort level. It signals clearly that you’re invested in team relationships, just in ways that feel best for you.
Trust me, setting boundaries thoughtfully and kindly isn’t anti-social; it’s smart self-care!
Note: This blog post is for informational purposes only and should not be construed as legal advice. Always consult with a legal professional for advice specific to your situation.
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